I wrote this before baby girl arrived after my mom pulled out my baby box. In that box was a letter she wrote to me before I was even born and it brought tears to my eyes because a lot of what she wrote about was exactly how I felt for my baby girl. The excitement, the fear of being new parents, the waiting for your new baby to arrive, all of it! So I decided to do the same for my little girl – all the things I hope for her, will try to protect her from but most importantly how I hope she looks at and handles situations I may not be able to protect her from.
Dear Baby Girl,
You could be here any day now – your father and I are literally counting down the days until we get our first look at you. I’m all sorts of excited, nervous and terrified but I’m told it comes with the territory of becoming new parents.
I already couldn’t imagine anything less than a perfect life for you – the challenge is now on me to make sure I don’t fall short. I am sure I will make mistakes along the way, but even amid them I hope you know I always have your best interest at heart. I already love you with every ounce of my being and I hope you know that if anyone ever tries to hurt you I would go to Hell and back to protect you.
With all of that said there will only be so much I can protect you from and there will be hard times that you will face as you go through life. This doesn’t mean I will not try, because anything that hurts you hurts me, it just means there is only so much within my control. This is why I’m writing this letter – in the hopes that one day you will read this and take it all to heart. Like I said, I would never do anything against your best interest.
I hope you know that ferocity isn’t a bad quality and I hope you have every bit of the ferocity I do. There will be people out there who will call it bossy, snappy or having a temper and paint it as a negative quality.
Don’t listen to them.
What they call bossy I call ferocity and it is much more an endearing quality than a negative one!
You will have your heart broken – everyone does – it’s not easy but it’s not the end of the world. Trust me – I know it feels like it is! But I promise you it’s not! If I would have given up the first time I had my heart broken I never would have met your father and that means I never would have had you – and every bit of heart break I ever went through was worth every second because it put me on the path that gave me you!
I can only imagine how your father will be when meeting your future boyfriends. Just remembers he loves you and everything he does is to keep you safe. As you get older there may be pressures on you to be “sexy”. Know that there is a difference between being sexy and being classy. Sexy is not always classy – but Classy is ALWAYS sexy!
Always have the courage to stand up for what you believe in, even if you’re the only one who is willing to. I cannot even count the number of times I was one of the only ones standing up for what I thought was right – I know first hand how difficult it can be. Especially now a days (I can only imagine how much tougher it will be for you). Just know there is zero shame for standing your ground and voicing your opinion – even if you’re in the minority.
I hope you never let anyone take your confidence or make you feel less than what you are. I know growing up is hard – I can’t even imagine doing it in an age where everything is social media driven. Just know that you are perfect in every way possible and if anyone tries to make you feel differently – they are wrong. People may start rumors, call you names or try to bully you. Just know they are wrong and do your best to ignore them. This doesn’t mean to not stand up for yourself, it simply means that someone will always have something to say about something. Usually to make themselves feel better about their situation – so do not give weight to anything negative they may say.
Lastley, know that your father and I love you more than life itself. There is nothing we wouldn’t do for you. We would give up our last breath just to give you one more and know there is nothing, I’ll say it again, NOTHING, you could do that would change that.
Not. One. Thing.
Love you one hundred times a million,